Perfectionism comes when we’re perfecting our craft but we’re doing it for somebody else, and we’re afraid that if we don’t do it perfectly, we’re not going to be accepted.
Be prepared to be blown away by the epiphany-inducing Christopher Browning. Christopher is a life and business coach, and a fellow DCer.
He helps men build confidence in themselves and reach their full potential, whether it be in business, in their careers or in life. He also has a pretty sweet moustache.
Apart from coaching clients and growing fantastically sculptured facial hair, Christopher has also been busy podcasting, launching his new show Shaving with Chainsaws, that helps men to “do the impossible with work, women and self.”
I really wanted to talk to Christopher about perfectionism, and how a frantic overachiever (like myself) can learn to overcome it. You may think that perfectionism is about spending hours agonising over your website font, or hitting a personal best at the gym, or delivering a flawless presentation, but it actually runs much deeper than that.
Listen to this interview, and I guarantee you’ll learn something about yourself you didn’t know before. Enjoy
Notes from the Episode:
- How Christopher became a life and business coach for men (both the happy and the sad stories!)
- He sees so many men who lack confidence in who they are and their work, and he wants to change that.
- Examples/symptoms of perfectionism – delay in execution of a project, and idea bouncing (can’t land on one thing) and failure to implement – ie getting to 90% of a project.
- Christina’s example of what perfectionism is. Learn how I almost didn’t release my video for Jared Easley, due to my fear of criticism.
- See Derek Sivers’ video ‘Obvious to you, amazing to others‘
- “Our perfectionism is our worry over how someone else is going to perceive us.”
- We’re thinking: Will people like me? Am I enough?
- Normally we exhibit perfectionist tendencies in areas of our lives that we don’t feel naturally strong in, we feel like we have to overperform. BUT when we do this, we’re denying another thing in our life that we’re actually excellent at
- Learn what to do if you’re dealing with perfectionism within your area of expertise
- Don’t worry if other people are ‘experts’ in other things. You can’t be one step ahead of them in these things, but you may one step ahead in another area.
- How to combat perfectionism when you’re worried about appearing not professional and polished.
- Read Strength Finders 2.0
Challenge of the Week:
- Find 3 people who know you well, and ask them what they think you do better than most people, and what helps them the most.
- You’ll get an answer. Then ask them, “Why is that important to you?”
- This is the VALUE you’re bringing people. Some people might tell you you’re good at the same thing, but the VALUE might be different.
- This exercise breaks down the feelings of “I have to be perfect”, and helps you to build confidence in your value to other people. You begin to realise you are ENOUGH. Just as you are. Right now.
- So go do it.